If we don’t feel that IDGAF liberation, we feel like something’s wrong with us. And all this gaslighting leaves our heads spinning even more. Because the world doesn’t know what to do with all of the fierce complexities of middle age women. We’ve been gaslit for years – no, for generations. We either hear about the how absolutely ah-mazing your 40s are, or how they are a literal “crisis.” Both miss the mark and get it wrong. The trouble is, no one is talking about it. Other days next you feel more like forty-and-fuck-off. Some days you feel all forty-and-fabulous about your life, wearing that IDGAF attitude like a cape. We’re better able to filter out the bullshit, but as a result, we realize just how much bullshit there is in the world. We do care less about the things that don’t matter, but we also care more about the things that do. People also love to wax poetic about the IDGAF liberation that comes in your 40s. It’s said with the implication that our rage is overly dramatic and unwarranted, like all of our troubles can be explained away with a “must be the hormones” wave of the hand. Like folks are literally brushing off every uncomfortable feeling or emotion or behavior that doesn’t fit the narrative of what women “should” be. It’s said with a demeaning and dismissive air. How many of us have heard of the proverbial “midlife crisis”? Umm, every last one of us. We’ve been gaslighting middle age women for so long now that we don’t even realize it. Making it all the more weird – and be “weird,” I mean hard AF – is the realization that we’re being gaslit. ![]() This is a weird and wonderful time, that’s for sure. Or that they wouldn’t happen quite so soon. I don’t know why, but for some reason, I expected all those “middle aged woman” stereotypes would happen to other women, but not to me. Even those things that you knew would come eventually – like the wrinkles and the night sweats – are utterly shocking when they happen to you. There is so much about your 40s that are weird and unexpected.
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